Let's Sling Some Mud, G-Man

Well Ladies I haven't written in some time.  I've had a breakup which you were informed of to my surprise by theG-Man himself.  I've been thrown back into Job search mode and have dabbled in doing some consulting on the side.  I've also been taking some time off with my children, dating lots and generally having a load of fun.

When I first read the G-Man's response I was a little surprised given that he wrote it on Aug 3 nearly a month and a half after the breakup.  I also find it interesting how he forgot to mention some of the subtle points on why I ended it - some of which I will confess to not mentioning to him.

So, in the interest of other recently divorced women who can't afford the nearly two years of counseling I've gone through let me tell you why I bailed on the guy and why it was the best decision all around that I've made in a long time.

1.  G-Man did tell me about his depression.  What he failed to mention was that most of his past relationships failed because of his irritability and his failure to address it.  I had a bad day and called him for some support.  I had received some bad news regarding my daughter's health.  When I called him and asked him to cheer me up, he told me he was in no mood to hear about my problems because he was feeling down and he hung up on me.  I told him the next time we talked that I didn't appreciate it and that I didn't want it to happen again and he told me to get used to it since that is how "he is" when he is irritable. I don't have to get "used" to anything like this anymore -- I'm no longer married...

2.  In touch with his feelings.  Yes, he is - so much so that he isn't in touch with the feelings of those around him.  It was as if his feelings were the only ones on the table.  I found it selfish.