Shall We Have A Swingin' Time?

I’ve been married 12 years. Everything in our marriage seems to be ok. We have 2 great kids. But I guess our sex life is getting boring, because my husband keeps suggesting we try “swinging” with another woman. I’m not so sure. Am I just being a prude?

Call me old-fashioned, but I say HECK no. You’re not being a prude, you’re just being prudent. I cannot understand how bringing another person into your relationship will strengthen it. Here’s something to try. Ask him if it’s ok if you start by swinging with another man first. I’m fairly certain I can guess the answer.

If your sex life used to be great before, there’s no reason it can’t be great again. It’s not the sex that’s changed, it’s both of you. Jobs, stress, children all take their toll on our libido. It takes work to rev up the engines again, but having a threesome isn’t the right answer. You’re opening yourselves up to jealousy and heartache, and the embarrassing prospect of having to explain this to your children some day.

There’s something deeper than boredom that’s driving your husband to suggest this. Next time your husband presses you about bringing in someone else, tell him you agree, as long as it’s a counselor.

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