Divorced Woman's Guide to Sex

Who says there isn’t sex life after the death of a marriage?

After spending years or even decades sleeping with one person, the notion of adding another notch to your belt can be a hard one to swallow. You and your partner have gone your separate ways, and unless you’re willing to settle for an eternity of endless nights spent with the old pocket rocket, you’re going to eventually have get back out in the game.

Unfortunately, starting over is never easy, especially when it comes to hitting the sack. Many women can’t imagine opening themselves up enough to another man after all this time. However, other gals feel like they’ve been given a second lease on their sex life.

Renowned intimacy expert Ian Kerner says there’s nothing uncommon about either of these feelings, and the celebrated sex doctor knows a thing or two about such issues. As the best-selling author of She Comes First: the Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, He Comes Next: the Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man, Be Honest, You're Not That Into Him Either, and the recently released D.S.I. Date Scene Investigation: the Diagnostic Manual of Dating Disorders, Dr. Kerner is a mastermind and tackles some of the toughest relationship issues both in and out of the bedroom.

Through his counseling work, Dr. Kerner explains that he’s seen both ends of the spectrum regarding how newly-divorced women approach sex. What’s most important to realize is that there is no one-size-fits-all game plan for getting back on the horse – everyone is different, he says.

“I hear from a lot of women who’ve gotten divorced that they want to sow their wild oats,” Dr. Kerner tells ShouldIDivorceHim.com. “They no longer feel sex needs to be a part of marriage. On one end there are women who are divorced that get up their renewed vigor for better or worse. But on the other side there are often divorced people who experience a lot of anxiety and depression which tends to inhibit libido. Very often they find the opposite thing happening. They’re divorced and single and don’t have a sex drive.