Sex After Divorce: Look Before You Lay

“You are intelligent, enjoy great intimacy and appreciate the attention to the small details that cause a romantic relationship to continuously deepen.” (Translation: I’ll take you out for one expensive dinner, and then it’s time to get busy.)

“Fun is based on the mood and moment. Sometimes it's going out for dinner and drinks. Other times it's cuddled on the couch immersed in a movie. Mixing it up while always trying new things is the balance I truly enjoy.” (Translation: What I truly enjoy is buying some hot chick a couple of Cosmos and then taking her home for couch sex under the pretence of watching an art film.)

I fully expect to get crabby emails from people saying I’m a pessimistic man-hater or something similar, but that’s simply not the case! Cynical? Perhaps. Realistic?  Most definitely. I simply call ‘em as I see ‘em.  I’m also very much an optimist – and I believe a realistic view is an essential component of optimism.

I am now going to reveal one of my personal secrets of contentment in life: setting expectations correctly. Having the correct expectation is critical for just about every aspect of our lives. And generally, I try to set my expectations as realistically as possible – which sometimes means a little on the low side. I don’t know about you, but I don’t enjoy being disappointed. I prefer to be satisfied, and of course I love being pleasantly surprised. So if my expectations are very realistic – even a teeny bit low, I have a very good chance of being satisfied and very often pleasantly surprised. And that’s why I think realistic expectations continually feed optimism.

If, when you meet a new man, you accept that he wants to get in your pants, you can more easily interpret his comments and actions. And you won’t be disappointed or shocked when he tries. You can also anticipate and prepare for your response.