The Dating Game

Dating is fun…I forgot it’s supposed to be.  I went on a ‘grown-up’ date last week.  Our local art museum has an after 5pm event on Friday evenings.  I sipped wine, listened to a live band, and strolled around looking at the amazing art.  I’ve added the evening to my list of favorite dates.  Not necessarily for the guy who took me there, but for the actual date.

I’m a one date wonder…I proudly admit it.  I’ve been married and divorced 3 times…I’ve seen a lot of male behavior and it’s difficult to fool me.  I took an extended break from dating because I didn’t want to become too jaded. 

When I started dating again recently, I had a few dating doozies like the guy who asked what my favorite sexual position was as I was taking the first sip of my first drink...choke…what did you say?  Or the guy who spent the entire date telling me how psycho his ex was…she’s crazy, she treats me like crap, my friends hate her, but I love her…do you think she’ll ever call me again?

A first date tells me everything I need to know.  Within 10 minutes, his motivation becomes obvious.  So I was worried I’d never make it to a second date.  I’m self-sufficient, emotionally stable, and happy with my life…is wanting the same in someone else too much to ask for?

Art Museum guy was actually a second date and I had a third date the other day with Trivia Night guy so it’s possible.  Instead of worrying about being jaded, I should gratefully recognize those early warning signs and make better choices.