An off-key eHarmony experience.

I joined eHarmony a couple of months ago and so far, not so harmonious. I don't have much in common with the guys they've matched me up with. And the dates I've been on feel like strange job interviews for positions I'm not sure anyone is really trying to land.

My first date two weekends ago looked so perplexed when I met him I said, "Are you okay T? You look a little confused."

My second date and his home were totally decked out in Tommy Bahama. A little too Margaritaville for me. And he was clearly several years older than he claimed in his bio.

So the whole experience was pretty much a bust until Mr. B contacted me.

He appeared to be a sensitive, intelligent guy. He's in the legal profession. Plays guitar. Likes to dance and travel, etc. We seemed to have a lot of common interests. And we had exchanged several eHarmony guided messages. One of his most recent told me a about his 21-year-old daughter and he asked for some info about mine.  So I told him how great a kid she was and that I turned her onto all my favorite comedies and she played softball and soccer and I felt lucky to be her mom.

The next step in our correspondence was supposed to be open communication. I was really looking forward to that.

Here's what I got:

Hi Bonk

What an interesting woman you seem to be! And gosh, what a pretty smile.

In thinking about things, though, I've decided not to continue our communication. I want to be honest with you about it. I'm sure that your daughter is a great joy -- I remember my daughter at age 12 and it was a wonderful time. Unfortunately, I just don't think I can handle that kind of relationship in my life at this stage of my life. Any serious relationship I would have with a woman would of course involve a serious and caring relationship with her child -- but I just can't do that right now. You seem like quite a catch, Bonk. I wish you all the best.