Empty Offers

No matter how beautiful the wrapping, if the box is empty, it’s not much of gift, right?

My life is coming together nicely.  I have a fantastic job and just got a raise and promotion…go me!  My son is now in his second school year here.  He’s made friends and settled in.  My daughters visit frequently and I see my family and friends often.  I have divorce court next week, and I’m hopeful it will finally settle things.  I’m currently searching for a house to make a permanent home for my kids and myself.  I am happy with my life and I feel optimistic and hopeful for the future.

So when someone offers me a pile of shit, why are they surprised when I turn them down?

Testing the waters, my ass... I nearly drowned in the dating pool.  All of the attention was flattering and it went to my head.  I dove right in before I finished reading the rules.  After 6 weeks and five dates with a guy, he asked me to commit to dating him and I agreed.  I heard the word ‘commit’ and thought that meant a relationship.  NOPE!  He didn’t want a ‘girlfriend,’ he just wanted to get in my pants!

When I talked to him about it, he was offended.  Because he spent money on me, and continued to ask me out, he said he was treating me well.  Why couldn’t we just keep things that way?  He takes me out and pays, we have sex and we are free to continue ‘dating’ other people.  He said we should be free to ‘spread ourselves around sexually’ (he seriously said that... shudder).  Eeeewwww.  Skanky is my word for it -- another way to describe it would be ‘prostitute.’

After that revealing conversation, I disinfected, I mean, distanced myself from him immediately!  He was surprised when I dropped him the next day.