Exes & In-Laws

I wish some Christmas spirit would bite Mr. Hyde’s ex in the ass... hard!  Having to deal with my own exes is difficult, but having to deal with my spouse’s ex makes me feel like a candidate for wife of the year. 

I always smile and say a pleasant "hello" no matter how childish and immature she behaves.  She dishes up her petty behavior and I smile right through it and keep being nice -- I won’t stoop to her level.

At the holiday concert for my stepkids last night it was more of the same. she totally ignored me as if I didn’t exist.  When I speak directly to her or say "hello," she averts her gaze or turns to talk to someone else. 

My in-laws went to last night’s concert too.  They sat with the ex daughter-in-law and her mother and we didn’t see them when we came in.  After the concert, we finally spotted them and the ex made sure to call them Mom and Dad and find everything they said insanely funny, all the while giving me sideways glances to make sure I’m watching. It was quite a show. 

When we joined them, she acknowledged Mr. Hyde, but not me.

This has been going on since the beginning. I’ve gone to baseball games and concerts and answered the door when she’s come to pick up the kids.  A couple of times when I answered the door and said "hi," she literally turned her back to me and stood at the door, ass toward me, not speaking. Real mature right?  At least with the in laws there last night, she knew being outwardly rude to me wouldn’t add to her projected “saint” image.

I realize dealing with an ex and his new partner is difficult and she blames me for the divorce so it’s especially hard for her.  It doesn’t matter that the divorce was filed before I came onto the scene and they were already separated. It wasn’t FINAL so there was still the remote possibility Mr. Hyde still longed for the fights on the lawn in front of the neighbors and the 2 a.m. shouting matches in front of the kids.