Happy Anniversary! Hope She Made It Nice

Yesterday would have been my 9th anniversary with Tweedle Dumb. I didn't think I would care about it, but a little twinge of hurt crept up and I felt like a fool. Why should a day make my heart ache? I really believed I was over it emotionally. Maybe it's just hormones, who knows.

Anyway, I needed to discuss some financial matters with him today and he proceeded to ask me if I recieved divorce agreement papers from his attorney yet. I told him I did not and that my attorney was on vacation for two weeks. He was definately irritated. I then told him that there were a few loose ends to tie up and that it might be a few months until it was all over. He was not pleased. He wanted to know why I was doing this, and didn't I want it to be over. I said I do want it to be over, but he can't expect to get everything out of this situation. I asked him why he was in such a hurry. I think I hear wedding bells!

Why does he have to act so ignorantly? He can't honestly believe that I would just roll over and take more of his BS? I think child support, spousal support, and alimony is a small price to pay for having my life torn apart at the seams with no warning. Our daughter has suffered, too.

Nothing like losing your house, moving in with your grandparents, changing schools in the middle of the year, leaving behind the friends you've grown up with, and visiting your dad every other weekend at his girlfriend's house with her 3 kids. I really wanted to be amicable through out this ordeal. I tried to be understanding, but I'm done. I want my life back. Not the life I had with him, but my life. I don't want to see my child hurting anymore.

How can a person be so selfish? You can't just have an affair and expect your spouse to say, "Oh, you don't want me anymore? Ok. What can I do to make this transition easier for you two?" Get real!