Husband Number Three -- Dr. Jekyll

Ok, now we’re up to date.  I met my current hubby online.  He lived two states away and we dated for several years before getting hitched.  We had romantic weekend rendezvous where one of us would fly to the other’s state or we would drive hours to meet up somewhere for the weekend -- it felt like a dream come true how happy we were together.

Well, fast forward to now. I picked up and moved out here because Mr. Hyde refused to move.    I gave up a great job, regularly seeing my kids, family and friends and dragged all my stuff out here.  I knew Mr. Hyde could get depressed now and then, but until I was his wife and living with him on a daily basis, I had no idea how extreme the mood swings could be.

I had some drama in my first marriage to Lazy, but our arguments never lasted long and when he would slap me, they would end immediately.  The next day he would be begging forgiveness or saying how sorry he was. This time, the arguments continue for days, sometimes weeks.  He’ll stomp around the house slamming doors, hopping in the car and tearing off out of the driveway, not speaking to me for days unless it’s to be nasty.

And the emails... he sends long, accusing emails to me at work. He calls me all sorts of horrible names and then claims he never said that when I mention it later.  When Dr. Jekyll is back, he completely denies the existence of Mr. Hyde.

When we were dating, the emails were always funny, flirty. My stomach would flutter when I saw an email in my inbox from Mr. Hyde. Now when they come in, my stomach flips over in a different way. It’s going to be a nice or nasty email, depending on his mood.

He’s mad at me again. He read something in my emails that he didn’t like, probably some venting to a girlfriend. So he’s leaving his wedding ring on the counter at home, stomping around and sarcastically remarking that it must be so hard living with someone like him, repeating venting phrases from private emails and then saying nothing is wrong when I ask him what’s going on.