I Was A Bad Wife Too, But...

In Kiki’s recent blog, Confessions of a Bitchy Wife, she admitted her shortcomings as a wife. I had serious shortcomings in my previous marriage, too. However, I’m not as gracious as Kiki!

I still maintain that I was pushed to my poor behavior by my ex’s ridiculous antics. I can say this without a doubt now because I can not IMAGINE saying or doing the things I did in my previous marriage to my current husband. Because I’m not being driven crazy, I have no reason to act crazy. Let the analysis begin!

First, I had few friends while I was married to the ex. I was so exhausted by the end of the day from work, taking care of the house and our son and my classes that there was no way I had a scrap of energy left to go out and socialize. Ex saw this as a reason to call me boring and unlikable, which I probably was at the time.

Second, I yelled and screamed. A lot, especially in the later years of our marriage. Was it wrong? Yes. I wish I’d been able to keep my composure better when fielding constant calls from his bill collectors, the IRS threatening to put a lien on our house, the state freezing our assets because he didn’t pay his state income taxes, or his friends calling to invite him for ANOTHER weekend away when we couldn’t even afford groceries.

Third, I called him names. God help me, I turned into an immature fiend. During the last couple of years of our marriage, I think I called him a “fat bastard” about ten times. I couldn’t help it!! The man overdrew his bank account eight times in one month! How could I resist? Truly, it made me crazy living under major financial pressure all the time.