If you feel muddled trying to make your way through the muck of your husband's thinking, feeling and acting, let me assure you: the confusion does not originate within you. It beams from the odious rays of The Crazy-Making Husband.
Creating, maintaining and enhancing confusion is one of The Crazy-Making Husband's most effective techniques. Why? If you can't think straight, you can't effectively counter his crazy-making. Nor can you ward off the profuse illogic he pumps into your mind. Worst of all, if you can't think straight, your balance is off -- allowing him, in all his crazy-making, to be in control of your life.
Exposed to his relentless attempts to confuse you, your very sense of self -- and sanity -- slowly erodes, so that in time, you even come to question who you are. You start to mistrust your judgment. Then, the ultimate injury occurs: you come to believe that you are incapable of managing life -- both yours, and your family's.
Creating confusion is a favorite terrorist technique. So too with military maneuvers. And it's integral to the evil art of brainwashing.
Twisting the truth, lying, denying, distracting, minimizing, dismissing and denigrating are all endeavors that seek to profoundly confuse you. With faithful repetition, and sufficient duration, they succeed.
As life with The Crazy-Making Husband goes on, his attempts to confuse you broaden. In every domain of your life, in every interaction, in one way or another, his mind-control manifests. And it is no wonder. Seeing you off balance evokes in him deep pleasure. It makes him feel balanced, by comparison. It makes him feel in charge.
Shaking down your thoughts, spinning your feelings, and de-railing your legitimate self-protective behavior are not only unethical, they're cruel. Next time your husband attempts to snare you with his evil art, grin at him. Stuff cotton in each of your ears, then a big fat wad in his mouth. If he's surprised, good for you. It's high time he got a taste of confusion, himself.