Lessons Learned

My mother died about a week ago. Naturally, I’m horribly upset and overwhelmed by this; however, her death has taught me several important lessons. 

First, make sure you are very, very careful about how you treat people while they are on this earth. Do not take them for granted. Do not become so wrapped up in your issues and problems that you can’t see anyone else’s wants or needs. 

Second, you MUST take care of yourself first and foremost; physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you don’t, you may end up with less time on this planet than you had hoped. If you don’t care for yourself, you won’t be able to care for others.

Third, if you’re unhappy, don’t wait to change your circumstances. Even if you can only make small changes, start making them NOW. If you keep putting it off, it may be too late.

My mother always put other people first, even to her own detriment. Fortunately, before she died, I had the opportunity to tell her everything I thought and felt about her. I showed my gratitude and appreciation. I told her how unfair it was that certain family members (who shall remain nameless) treated her poorly and took advantage of her. I thanked her for all she had taught me.

After she died, I walked out of Hospice, trying to make sense of it all. That’s when it hit me. This life is precious. Don’t squander your happiness. Live life to the fullest. These may sound like cliché statements, but I truly believe them now. I am grateful for the love and happiness I have in my life.

Thank you, mom. I hope you have found the peace, comfort, and happiness you deserve.