Not All Men Are Evil

Kiki’s "The Look of Love" blog got me thinking. I used to be one of those women who thought that most men are evil marriage is something to be endured. I didn’t start my first marriage that way, but it was something I came to learn over time.

I was always shocked when other married couples showed affection to one another or seemed to enjoy each other’s company. If my ex and I made it though the day without screaming at each other, I thought that was romantic. 

My self-esteem took such a beating during my first marriage, a part of me almost felt I deserved to be treated poorly. Enter current husband! While we were dating, he was considerate and charming.

He’d always ask if he could cook or clean up after dinner, he kept my fridge stocked with seltzer, tried new and crazy restaurants that I wanted to try, called and e-mailed just to say that he loved me… the list went on and on.

I figured he was on his best behavior and it had to end soon. But it didn’t. We’ve been married for a year and together for over two. Sure, homeownership, a new dog, and parenting/step parenting together has made us more tired, but I can honestly say I can’t wait for him to come home at the end of each day. I enjoy just sitting around and doing absolutely nothing with him.

I assure you, this is a far cry from how I felt in my first marriage. Kiki is right…you’re supposed to show love and affection toward your spouse. You should want to be together. As I learned, there are men out there who want to treat you well. In turn, it makes you want to treat them well. Rest assured, ladies, not all men are evil. As a matter of fact, there are some pretty decent ones out there.