Pointless Passwords

Passwords are a waste of time in our house -- we have each other’s passwords.  We both came from lying, cheating spouses. Well, at least I did. So we are both a little leery, but heck, can’t I have ANY privacy??

With hubby #2, one of the main reasons I got fed up was because he was constantly reading my emails. I would change the passwords and because he was computer savvy, he had programs to find them. 

He would pour over my emails and then quote them back to me in conversation. When he mentioned something I had said to a girlfriend in an email, I would ask him where he heard that and he would say "you told me, you just don’t remember."

He made me feel like I was crazy and couldn’t remember things for longer than two seconds.  

When I voiced my suspicions to a friend, in an email of course, he didn’t stop -- he just got nastier.  A friend told me how to check for new files created and when I did... WOW! I reread all my emails. 

I called my ex-husband and let him have it. I didn’t have anything to hide and if he had asked I would have gladly told him whatever, but the fact that he didn’t trust me spoke volumes.  I talked with my girlfriends about very private things -- they were HORRIFIED that my husband would read the private confessions they had made about their own marriages. 

How could they trust me again knowing that everything they told me was being read by my husband?  Nothing they said to me was in confidence -- he had violated not just my privacy, but theirs as well.

He promised he would stop. I changed my password again and he swore he would never do it again.  Less than six months later, you guessed it -- he did it again.  That was my ‘aha’ moment.