Justice & Truth Reigns
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is a friggin’ genius! Read this quote, written by a man who is a husband and father:
"Unfortunately, many men today are selfish. The culture subtly conditions them to feel like women are created for their pleasure and will do anything for their happiness. This is not, of course, conducive to the creation of gentlemen. So I hear this complaint more and more from wives who feel that they're husbands just aren't giving."
That’s right on the money! Sadly, I have no idea how one can try to change their husband’s selfishness. If you ignore the behavior and let them keep up their selfish ways, they never have to be held accountable for their misdeeds and just keep behaving the same way. If you bring it to their attention that they’re behaving poorly, you’re considered a nag. It’s a double-edged sword!
When I was with my ex, I tried every tactic in the book. I ignored. I pleaded. I pointed out things that upset me. We even went to counseling. In our relationship, he was just selfish to the core and there was nothing I could do to change that. He always felt a sense of entitlement.
I never understood his insanely selfish behavior because it’s not in my nature to walk all over other people to get what I want. We made a good living, but were always broke because of his problem spending and financial mishandling. If we had $20.00 left in the checking account, he’d take it to go out with his buddies. When I’d ask him how we’d pay for groceries, he'd say, “Find a way.” He’d never actually find a way. His friends would subsidize meals out for him while our son and I stayed at home every evening trying to make creative meals from the remnants of the pantry.