Sex Starts Outside The Bedroom

This weekend, I read a post on a message board that really pissed me off. A woman lamented about how her husband cheated on her and she never saw it coming.

Rather than replying with support, people chimed in that he must have cheated because he was bored, she wasn’t kinky enough, she should have engaged in some light bondage, etc.  First of all, this woman never said anything about their sex life. For all we know, they screwed five times a day. Second, why is it all HER fault the guy cheated? When did it become all about the woman’s shortcomings when a guy decides to have a “liaison?” 

Not that you asked for it, but I’m going to give you my observations about men and cheating. Most men that I’ve spoken to that have cheated say they did it because they were having problems in their marriage and their wives didn’t put out enough. Usually, when I probe a little deeper, they admit that their wives were probably so exhausted from doing 99% of the child care and housework (in addition to working), it’s no wonder they didn’t have the energy for hours of kinky sex at night. Most of these guys openly admit they did very little around the house.

NOW that they’ve gotten the boot, the regret treating their wives like crap and cheating. I’m sure you’ve heard the old excuse, “She never gave me enough sex! I had to beg for it. Finally, I went elsewhere to get it.” PLEASE! Did these men ever stop and think for a moment WHY their wives didn’t want more sex? When my ex asked me why I’d become such a, “frigid bitch,” I told him it was because he treated me like dirt and I had NO interest in having sex with someone that treated me so horribly. I mean, come on! You ignore a person, burden them with all of the housework and childcare, tell her how awful she is and how she’s no fun any more and you think THAT will make her want to screw you? What’s the moral of this story, dear men?