Some Things Never Change

Periodically, I look at my state’s judicial website just to make sure my ex hasn’t filed for any child support or custody modifications (all family court and civil cases are listed online). Although he hasn’t done it yet, he’s threatened to file for modifications for the past two-and-a-half years.

Because I have the audacity to be able to pay for half of our son’s braces up front or can afford to go on vacation once per year, apparently, this means I get too much child support. Yesterday, I decided to check the site. I hadn’t checked it four months. Nope... no new motions filed. But what I saw nearly made my eyes fall out of my head. The ex’s house is in foreclosure.

I shouldn’t be surprised by this because he is a complete disaster with money, but for some reason, it was still shocking to see it on paper. I shook my head and thought, “Some things will never change.”

If it wasn’t for the fact that we have joint custody and my son also lives with his dad, I wouldn’t be the slightest bit worried or upset. But, my son goes to school based on his dad’s residence (since we have joint custody). If the ex loses the house, our son will have to switch schools. He’s in middle school, has a good group of friends, and is doing well academically. It would devastate him to have to change schools.

And the district is so strict, they would never make an exception to let him stay in the school. Basically, this situation sucks.

How did this happen AGAIN? Why can the ex NEVER seem to get his life together, no matter how much money he makes? While we were married, bill collectors constantly called the house and once, his car was nearly repossessed. He owed tens of thousands of dollars in income taxes and ran up a huge amount of credit card debt. He claimed his financial problems were all my fault.