Stupid Is As Stupid Does
The World According To Kiki & J-Fed
Ugh. Even in divorce I’m not far enough away from J-Fed. I’ve seriously considered renting a spaceship. I mean, I’ve concluded that he’s from another planet. So why can’t I just send him back?
Just today I was informed by J-Fed that he would be taking both kids three days a week, and four days every other week. You would have needed a forklift to remove my jaw from the floor. I sat there in disbelief as HE told ME how it was going to be. As he laid down “the law,” a million things ran through my head – the first being that I’m a complete and total idiot… REALLY.
There are certain moments in your life when you look back and realize that you’ve made the biggest mistake ever. I’m not referring to our wedding day – that goes without saying. In fact, I’m referring to D-Day. You see, when we were going through the divorce process, I always thought J-Fed and I would reconcile.
I mean, he even told everyone we knew it would probably happen. Never in a million years did I imagine how bad things would sour between us, although I think my lawyer had a hunch.
Yet I blew her off. I mean, what did she know? It’s funny how we fool ourselves.
I must forewarn any and every woman considering divorce to never play nice. In the end, I can promise you that you will regret having a bleeding heart. The only person you are screwing by being nice is yourself, not to mention your kids. I’m not a lawyer. I’m not giving legal advice. I’m just speaking from my personal experience. Take from it what you will. Here’s where I went wrong…
Child Support Mistake #1 – I felt bad for J-Fed when they gave me the number. I realized that his quality of life would seriously suffer if he had to pay me the amount the court demanded. I reduced my expenses, cutting where I thought I could. Hello?!?! Who the hell did I think I was? That formula was created for a reason. It was not my place to have child support reduced. Those dollars were supposed to go toward their wants and needs. In trying to once again protect J-Fed, I did so at the sacrifice of my children.
