The Cheater Vs. The Cheatee

I've been trapped in this divorce abyss for 3 months now and it has just occured to me that there is a double standard. My estranger has yet to face any of the backlash I would have had to if I was the cheater. No one has held him accountable for his actions, or the fact that he destroyed one family and assisted in destroying another. The courts don't even look at it the same.

I want a public apology. I want him and his new woman to stand on the corner of a busy intersection wearing signs that display their sins. Even then I wouldn't be satisfied. When you cheat on someone you are basically telling that person that they aren't good enough, that they can be replaced. That is the lesson we teach our children. No wonder marriages are not considered sacred unions anymore.

Years ago people were congratulated for being married 25+ years, now people are surprised if you make it past the 5 year mark. Isn't that sad? What happened to "till death do us part"? I could have killed him many times, but he's still breathing. He's playing house with his new woman and her children, while my daughter and I uprooted our lives and now live with my parents in another county.

My daughter had to change schools mid-year, we lost our home, our friends, I left my job, gave up my dog, and my car all because he refused to be faithful and comitted. He has the house, the car, his job, his friends, his new life, and no responsibility. Not to mention the fact that he says I should be f------ greatful for the $50.00 he gives me for child support every week. He also decided that the custody agreement he just signed doesn't have to be followed. That means he will only spend time with my daughter when it suits him. Where is the justice?