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The Italian Stallion

Enjoli, Mistress of White Trash Hell

I've found in my limited dating experience post divorce that most divorced men are divorced for a reason.  It is pretty evident to a previously married woman on why said men are
divorced.

Case in point..
 
1st issue - CLINGY
I met the "Italian Stallion" on a dating site about two months ago.  I should have known imediately to beware because everytime he saw me on the site he jumped on the IM and flirts like white on rice.  He would email me and text me constantly once he got my digits.  Where are you?  What time are you going to be here or there?  What is your schedule for the next year?  He even tried to set up my social obligations to him for several months in advance for every free weekend that I had.  He wanted to make sure that he was the only date on my calendar....YUCK
 
2nd Issue - Controlling
I told the Italian Stallion that I would meet him for coffee...and only coffee once I felt comfortable that he wasn't a freak.  He seemed fine with it at first, but after about a month of talking occasionally he insisted that he had earned the right to dinner and that I WAS GOING TO GO WITH HIM.  See, he didn't suggest it in a nice way or even ask me. No, he told me and with a raised voice.  At this point, even though he didn't know it - he was no longer in the running for coffee.
 
3rd Issue - Lack of ability to hold libido in check

I'm way worse than most men on the libido front, but I check it at the door when I leave for a date.  It is a morality issue for me and I've always been that way.  The Italian Stallion, however, called after my work Christmas party with the hopes that I was blasted on alcohol and wanted to meet me at the hotel and get a room. He would bring the champagne. WTF????  I agreed to coffee (which still hadn't happened) and he was hoping to get drunk sex from me?  I guess he missed the part where I told him that I rarely drink and NEVER to excess.
 
4th issue - Overstepping Boundaries that I put in place
The Italian Stallion kept calling and mentioning that he was riding by my street (I'm in a gated community), hanging out near my church (to try and spot me), and riding by my gym.  He mentioned in one call the color of my vehicle which I never told him.  So, I know for sure that he was stalking me.
 
5th Issue - Lack of ability to see ones mistakes/faults
Now, this is a huge one - especially when you're married.  If you are married to someone that can never admit when they are wrong, it is over. Just wait and see.  Over Christmas I told the Italian Stallion that I would be busy with family and friends.  He called and texted everyday - sometimes in excess of 30 to 40 times a day.  I got fed up with him and called him and told him that even if he called me 50% less it was too much.  He yelled at me and told me that he HAD to call me when HE WANTED TO and eventually hung up on me. Then he called me four more times that night (I did not pick up).
 
6th Issue - Rush to committment
This guy had been divorced for 4 years.  He has been ENGAGED twice in 4 years.  I guess he didn't even give pause to the end of his 10-year marriage before deciding to marry again...twice.  I think I know now why some folks hit marriage number 4,5,6 etc.  They don't ever learn from their mistakes.  I so hope that I have learned from mine and don't become a repeat offender.
 
So, here we are with this freak calling and texting me still.  I haven't responded to a text or call in days but yet he persists.  How long do you think this freak will keep it up?



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