To Date Or Not To Date... That Is The Question

Ok, I’ve only been divorced for 4 months or so.  Papers were signed and notarized in July – sealed by the court in August.  I’ve attempted dating -- utilizing an online site.

I have met some interesting people.  I’ve made one friend that I just love to talk to,  though we’ve never met.  I’ve been on three dates via the online service and a random lunch/coffee date or two outside of the online service.  I have said no to more dates than I can count.  I am so much PICKIER than I used to be.  I have little time or energy for Drama.  Here are a few of the things that I really dislike.

1. Don’t ask me my sexual preferences if you can’t remember my name.

2. Don’t offer to buy me high dollar assets (homes, cars) – not interested.  I buy my own stuff and will always prefer that.

3. Don’t assume that you are going to move in and be “Daddy” to my kids.  In fact don’t assume that  I will ever let you meet them.

4. Don’t rage on and on about your ex.  I table my complaints for the most part to my closest friends, a few strangers (if I’m having a bad day) and my therapist (and of course this site which I love).  See, when a man rages about his ex it just makes me think of my ex who raged about his 1st wife – and I now know that everything he said was a lie back then.

5. Don’t assume that one date makes you my boyfriend.  I have NO intention of handing out any kind of commitment to anyone until I know for sure what I’m saying yes to.  I have decided that anyone who may seem worthy will need to pass a criminal background check.

Sex. Yes, the dirty little word that freaks most of us out -- who have been married forever.  I miss it, but only the good sex, not the ho hum sex.  I don’t want anymore ho hum sex... EVER. I’m also not having sex with someone I’m not in love with.  Did I mention I don’t fall in love so easily?