What's My Name?

The more guys I meet, the less impressed I am with the options.  A couple of months ago, I signed up for a dating website just to get out and meet some people.  I wasn’t looking for a husband since my divorce from Mr. Hyde isn’t final, but I wanted to test the waters a bit.


The paid site yielded no results so a friend suggested a free website… it’s free, why not?  I got slammed from the minute I signed up.  Every time I logged on to check my email, IMs came at me left and right, and more emails began filling my already full inbox.  I’d like to think it’s because I’m cute, but more likely it’s because everyone and their brother is on the free site.  There’s also no quality control... do they really think ‘yo baby, you’re hot’ will make me swoon and gratefully respond?


I’m an eternal optimist, so I agreed to meet one or two of the more ‘normal’ seeming guys.  The first one was nice, good looking and attentive.  We went out a couple of times and in a span of a week, he wanted to introduce me to his kids and family.  Whoa, boy!  I told him to slow down and he obliged…he stopped altogether and went back to his ex-girlfriend.  Guess he thought a week of me ‘holding out’ on him was too much.


Determined to take things slower next time, I talked to a guy for six weeks.  Emails, phone calls, text messages... We spent hours on the phone getting to know each other before we even met.  When we finally did, I felt awful.  I consider myself open-minded and not superficial; but I found out lack of dental hygiene is a deal breaker for me.


I met a guy from the paid site last week.  I figured the paid site would have higher standards so more suitable people right?  Wrong!  He was a convicted felon who went to jail after kidnapping his ex-girlfriend with a gun when she tried to break up with him.  I very gently let that one down.


I made one last date with a guy from the free site a couple of weeks ago and then dropped it.  It was too much to maintain and I figured when the time was right, it would happen.  This last guy loved to take me to nice places and spend money on me.  The chemistry was definitely there and all seemed right.  From date one he’s been pushing intimacy but he seems like a player to me.  He’s on a social networking site constantly and seems to have a lot of female friends.  We’re still dating, but despite the bad experiences, I realize I’m looking for a boyfriend, not just a friend with benefits.