Where Do I Go? What Do I Do?

My ex has repeatedly told me he is perfectly competent when it comes to all things related to our son. Since our son’s almost 13, I don’t worry about what’s going on when he’s with his dad quite as much as I used to; he’s perfectly capable of speaking up, thankfully.

However, I still occasionally feel the need to over-explain what’s going on to make sure the ex fully understands where he’s supposed to be and what he’s supposed to do.

Our son had a school dance on Friday night. Ex was going to pick him up from the dance that night because he had just returned from a business trip. He had not picked him up from a dance before. I explained to him where to go, which door to pick him up from, what the protocol was for parking, signing your child out, etc.

We’d had discussions about this on the phone and via text. What happens at 8:45PM while I’m in the shower? Apparently, I start getting calls and texts. Ex doesn’t know if he should go inside to get our son, he doesn’t know what to do, etc. I went to bed right after my shower and didn’t see the texts and missed calls until the morning. Ex texts me in the morning, stating, “Good thing it wasn’t an emergency last night.”

Yeah, dodo, that’s a great thing. Ever hear of leaving an actual voicemail or trying my home number if it was such a pressing issue? I called him this morning and asked him if everything was OK. He said yes, but he didn’t know where to get our son last night and he really needed to talk to me then.

This is the man that answers one e-mail a year and returns my calls days later, if ever. I reminded him that I had already explained to him where to go and what to do. “Oh. I must have forgotten.”